By Lucas Kimeu
Daily, the topic of love has been finding new descriptions with new words to describe it. But will we ever get to know what it really means? I guess you have your own answer. What do we mean when we talk about love actually? Love encompasses a range of strong and positive emotional and mental states, from the most sublime virtue or good habit, the deepest interpersonal affection, to the simplest pleasure. Here, we are talking about the love in romantic relationships. With love, everyone always has a different kind of story to offer. Some have some gone under very touching heartbreaks even their stories leave you crying but do we really know if we are supposed to love or live and die single. A lot of phrases have been made saying that love is a scam and stuff.
One has to distinguish between love and fantasy of which has been a challenge in our today life. Fantasy may come clothed in love rags but it really is different from genuine love. In fantasy, one sees it fit to be in a relationship with someone but after getting into the relationship, everything changes and they end up loosing respect for each other hence breaking up. As people our love life is often destroyed during our childhood when we form different forms of fantasies in our minds of a perfect partner which is not exactly what we desire as adults but due to our formed versions of our partners we end up loosing it all because we do not get what we desire.
As a youth you have to distinguish your feelings. To prevent future regrets and disappointments in your love life. When getting into relationships, avoid expectations because these expectations are the biggest cause of disappointments and even huge break ups leading to suicides and untimely deaths. Before you fall in love be extra cautious of what you are actually getting yourself into. This is because that might be you digging your own grave. It is one of the most dangerous addictions in someone’s life as its effect is mostly associated with hard drugs such as cocaine. Love occurs as an attraction which is caused by a hormone released at the left side of the brains and it affects the same way as the hard drugs.
Each one of us has a different opinion about love. Some will tell you not to dare fall in love because of their terrible pasts with their terrible partners. For me I could tell you to try and fall in love for you to taste the better part it while still young and vigorous. Still when choosing the one to fall for, be careful ‘kisikurambe’ as they say it because we will laugh as you cry but then help you if you decide to die. Now the baton is yours its either you decide to run and fall in love carelessly or fall in love cautiously. Now go.