The campus re-union

 

 By Chepchumba Mercy.

How would campus life  be at school without having a boyfriend or girlfriend lover to spend your weekend and free time with!I do recognise that relationships are more than that in the adult world. Well here in campus,we walk two by two flooding academic highways. Kissing ,caressing and public Display of affection is the order of the day around here .

In Moi university. Long holidays take six to eight months .One wonders how this relationships survive and thrive in absence of the physical touch and ravenous sex. When partners go out yo be interns or they complete school. These are transitions that put a strain on a relationship that thrives on nothing aside physical touch.

For instance the current second years in Moi University just came to school recently after staying home for about a year. Last year March during the Covid pandemic they were sent home ,they came back in November for one month just to do their examination and went back home again. They've come back to school on June ,Do you think their last year January's relationship still stands?

Absolutely no , over their long holiday probably they met new people to engage with forgetting their campus lovers. While at home , the chances of them chatting and phone calling their campus lovers is very low. Maybe they talked the first two weeks at home then their conversation end there since it's very hard to hold a long and impressive conversation between two lovers who are far from each other.

Coming back to school for the second years ment starting all over and getting into other relationships. They move on as if nothing happened forgetting the sacrifices they made in the previous relationship. Girls atmost are the ones who sacrifice their time to go to their lovers houses ,wash their clothes and even cook for them .At times they even go to the extend of lying to their parents for more money just to please their boyfriends but all goes in vain.What pains the most is missing classes just for a guy who will break up with you afterall .

 Campus relationships are fun  if you meet a person who sees your sacrifices and efforts in a relationship.

Pain demands to be felt.

All my life,I thought I needed a male  love interest,relationship or a partner to be happy. I did whatever I could to avoid being single.  That meant taking  a lot of of bad turns,made a lot of wrong choices and tried to love a lot of wrong people. All the time,I ended up with hurt feelings and broken heart. Call me crazy ,using the wrong dating patterns and expecting a different result 

I think I was somehow naïve and had a myopic mentality,I also can't tell why I trusted all men who came along saying that they loved me! My first days at campus seemed too nice .I had assured my heart that there should be no more pain since I knew I had got a soulmate,I even felt that I had found something much more precious. But damn! I did not get the memo on campus playboys .If I did ,I was blinded by seeking perfection from a man who wanted to taint mine .It is true,people destroy that which they do not understand.

He was handsome and I had a crush on him.It came without question that when he asked me out my teenage brain was welling with dopamine and my heart full of pride ,ready to call him mine .I gave in to all his demands .He was really fine and handsome,as per the appearance. His long sharp nose,fierce eyebrows were the Stark features of his face,his hair was thick and as black as raven's wig...my love,but never my lover

Having him beside me made me feel that the Almighty had already answered my prayers. I gave all of me to him, "the power of love" and all the trust was for him,,only to find that it was a monthly contract. Well,at least my periods are consistent.

He then started behaving wierd and that's when my eyes opened and I started realising that my time was over..he had not gone any lose since he had done what he intended to do.I never thought of my wildest dreams that stuff like betrayal and heartbreak were to happen to me again.

All the decisions to try to turn frogs into fairy tales had left my heart in pieces and my soul empty.The pain was even unbearable to me.

"But maybe I made it too easy", "maybe he took me for granted," all these rampant thoughts were killing me bit by bit.I was too much devoted to him such that I never cared about the world around me as he was my whole world...But I know I'm a witty and pretty girl and there are many guys who always run after me,but I'll never budge an inch.I don't think if I'll ever entertain anyone leave alone these campus guys with their hair twisted to dreads and their colourful sweatpants.

I have been submerging myself into relationships and never have I faced those truths .Trying to chase for love and looking for someone to love me the way I want has not yet worked for me.

I'll have to take back my magic and rediscover the person I had lost along the way .I just think that pain demands to be felt.

My Museo.

       

Find your Eureka moment.

Money is everything,or so the modern saying goes . We live in a country where those with money seek out to employ their equals in the wealth basket.Others have mastered money. If one plays naive, then they soon find themselves in an unending cycle of desperation.The old-fashioned belief that people go to school to get good jobs and earn descent salary must be shaken off. It didn't work even to many of our grandparents and parents. Sometimes, we ask too much of education and end up not learning.

The purpose of education is not to get you a good job. It's to enlighten you and in the process, you may get a job if you wish so. Let education pass through you and not you, pass through education. Be a leader among the leaders and an elite among the elites.

It always haunts me whenever l bump on literate stories lively and on social media complaining and laying blame to the government for not giving them jobs even after scoring high in universities. But just to ask, why only university graduates are the ones who always blame the government for being jobless?

At times, some were forced by their parents to pursue the course(s) they didn't love and others, Kenya Universities and Colleges Central  Placement Service (KUCCPS) gave them the courses they didn't desire and the strive to do inter course transfer after admission failed. So as the case, they just accepted half-heartedly to pursue the course.

Otherwise, that aside; what about those who pursuit their dream course and now complaining of unemployment? More so, what about those who didn't reach college, university or even high school? Whom are they supposed to blame? Youths; it's a time we stop blaming our government for leading us a stray and create job opportunities for ourselves.

I've met 1st class honours indulging in businesses and  farming . I've seen many who even did not go to college or university employing degree holders. Personally, l was once employed by a class 7 drop out to run his business with a meager salary less than 7,000ksh. But was l supposed to complain? Normalize the habit of making yourself a brand other than complaining.

After college or campus, always keep in mind that, there's another life waiting for you out and it will not be dealing about lectures or tuitorials. It will be about you. Your parent or guardian won't be paying your rent or providing food for you. It will be just you. If you complain of being jobless after school, think about those school drop outs because of lacking fees.

Never miss out on opportunities because you were too scared to take action .When companies in your area of interest are hiring or looking for interns, it is important to send your application always. Paid or voluntary, it is a good platform to learn and practice beyond the classroom walls.

It's so painful to see a graduate with nice academic papers without skills. Currently, most companies with skilled HR's look for skills. Do you have skills to disapprove the recruitment panel that you are worthy for the job? Or just your academic qualifications? Even though the academic papers at most helps, have skills.

To those who are still schooling, of cardinal importance is getting rid of all the myths and find the truth about what it is you are pursuing in school. Whether or not you want to be employed should be a choice and not sheer circumstances out of desperation. This  creates an unending circle of self loath and poor mental health state.Graduate or not,find your Eureka moment .

Editorial.

 

Good morning readers and legacy members. Those who keep reading what we write support us in our journey to be journalists, writers and content creators. Those who recognise that journalism is changing embrace the changes. This is for those who push us to embrace these new dynamics in the industry and find our niches.

Today marks the beginning of our editions. We are excited to hear your views, critics and general feedback. We welcome anyone looking for a family of like-minded people to join our club and be part of something that pushes them out of their comfort zone every Tuesday, Thursday and Sunday. These are the days we hold our editorials for wall publications, and on Wednesday, we take stock via meetings.

We are not without flaws; we take the Legacy media as a chance to learn and seek perfection. We welcome all new members, and we will grow and support each other.

Our finalists leave us in a short while. I thought that I would have gotten used to saying goodbye by the third year. But it never gets any easier. Much gratitude to our outgoing chairperson, Brenda Omondi (mimiBree). You are a true leader in your capacity and an inspiration to everyone on the campus. Between us, girls, fly as high as you'd wing can take you. I will not mention you by name, but your roles will always be significant.

To the team that we remain together, I hope we journey together and, in the end, make a legacy. This stopped being an editorial long ago and became a speech.