And then on this issue of relationships, I believe a relationship is meant to take its own course. You don’t sit down and plan that course. You simply do what you can in the present, take on a habit in the now that could contribute in one way or another to that future.
Like basically, I don’t understand when people stress over the question; “where do you see this thing going?” Even if you have to ask that question in the first place, then it’s going nowhere. A relationship should progress naturally at its own pace.
It may be 10 years perhaps when it gets serious. Perhaps it won’t even get serious. Or you will not even get married but you will stay together and have children. But don’t try to impose your artificial boundaries and directions on a relationship, give it the space to grow.
Because you know, I don’t have to ask my friends, “where do you see this friendship going?” As with friendships, so with relationships. You have to focus on being your best, doing your best in the present moment of the relationship then hope that based on your best, the future will decide whether you are the right person to take it forward.
And the reason why most people never enjoy relationships is because they live in the future. They’re so concerned about whether they will break up or not. Whether he will finally commit, or rather if she won’t cheat. That doesn’t’t matter. Focus on the present, that’s the only real thing. We have no power to influence the future, but we can do something in the present that indirectly counts in that future.
So you know, if you are in a relationship, give it all your best in the present. Don’t stress about the next 5 years or two or even one. Take this one day and give it all you can. Create wonderful memories together.
That’s it. No other secret. Whether you break up or not, you will have created wonderful memories together to look back on and smile.
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