THIS CRAZY STUFF CALLED CRUSH

SHEEKOW Gateri is a creative writer with The Legacy-Moi University Publication

By SHEEKOW Gateri

It just takes one minute to have a crush on someone. That one person whom we spend most our time thinking about, daydreaming what would be like to marry them. Be it your teacher, best friend’s boyfriend, celebrities, or… Based on psycho logic study, a crush only lasts for a maximum of four months. If it exceeds, you’re already in love. So, how long have you been crushing on him or her?

Out of curiosity to dig more in the topic I set out to interview a few people. I subjected them to three different questions:

Do you know someone who has a crush on you?

Would you have the courage to talk to your crush?

Is your crush today the same as you had a few years ago?

Most of the correspondents are aware of people who have a crush on them. They prefer talking to their crushes. They meet new crushes day in day out.

The highest percentage will have an imaginary relationship with their CRUSH. Always imagining them holding onto our hands and whispering to our ears” I will never let you go”. Even the sweet words we are told by others lack meaning and all we want is to hear them from our crushes.

One may decide to know them but it’s still hard if you happen to see them every day. You hate that part when they are talking to someone else, laughing with their pals but giving you a weird look or ignore you when you meet. Well, if this pisses you off you can go on and try to talk to them, but it takes a lot of courage to do so. We all fear their reactions after telling them how we feel about them. To avoid embarrassment we opt to keep our feelings to ourselves or at times avoid them. Do you know someone who has a crush on you?

The most painful feeling is when you hear your crush likes someone else or pays little or no attention to you. When you see people flirt with your crush you are like ‘how I wish this bitch or nigger dies tonight.’

There is nothing wrong with having a crush because having a crush is one thing and acting on any part of it makes the difference. Don’t feel bad on it. Its natural and you are not evil, you are just human. It’s a matter of having control of action. Whether you are in a committed relationship or not, you cannot help who you are attracted to. But having a crush on your friend’s partner can be the worst. You may think it’s harmless but your partner may consider it as cheating. This is because research shows that those who are committed to their relationships pay less attention to their partners. My crush today wasn’t my crush five years ago and is not likely to be the same person I’ll crush on a few years to come. I wouldn’t marry a person I crushed on in my teens.