By OMONDI Brenda
Falling in love is precious; it’s a jewel and almond. Everyone gets super excited to learn that they mean something to someone. Often, people are blinded by fear, frustration, beauty and money that they don't realize they are in the wrong relationships. To determine whether you are in a true relationship and your lover loves you back, you have to consider answering all the following questions with a sincere “yes":
1. DOES HE/SHE CREATES TIME FOR YOU?
Well, you got the answer with you. A true relationship is where both the partners have time for each other. Don't be fooled by excuses of being busy. No one is ever too busy for the other; it all depends on your position in the priority list. Consider minding if you are always the one to text first or call. Marvelous, you are in danger if you are a victim of such, run for your life and save yourself the heartbreak.
2. DOES HE/SHE RESPECT YOU?
Respect is paramount. You don't have to kill yourself looking for it. If someone loves you, he/she should show all elements of respect to you.
3. DOES HE/SHE SEEK YOUR OPINION WHEN IT COMES TO MAKING BIG DECISIONS?
If someone has chose you to be part of their life, he/she will always make sure you give a hand in making important decisions that affect his life. Consider thinking twice if you are always left out in making important decisions.
4. HAS HE/SHE MADE ANY SACRIFICE JUST TO MAKE YOU HAPPY?
He says he loves you, but his actions are not reflecting it. What are you still waiting for? An alarm? Well, if someone loves you he/she will do the littlest sacrifices just to prove it. Remember actions speak louder than words.
5. DOES HE/SHE LISTEN TO YOU WHEN YOU HAVE AN IMPORTANT CONVERSATION?
Listening is very essential, not only in relationship life but also in daily life. An effective communication is judged by interest; equally, the interest is judged by effective listening. If he/she doesn't listen or often considers his/her idea to be right, you are sinking in a pool of dirty water.
6. DOES HE/SHE BUILD A FUTURE WITH YOU?
Charity begins at home. Mere words can't prove that he will keep you forever. When he/she is making future plans and talks about " my future wife/husband or family" , just have it in mind that you are helping him/her push time. Stop wasting your time and effort, follow the right track or else you will be stacked.
7. DOES HE/SHE CARE ABOUT YOUR GOALS AND HELPING YOU ACHIEVE THEM?
He/she has never enquired about your goals. He doesn't know the struggle you are going through to achieve them. The main relationship goal is succeeding together, not buying matching watches and clothes and posting your relationship status in social media. Consider minding about that.
8. DOES HE KEEPS YOUR SECRET AND RESPECT YOUR PRIVACY.
A partner who truly loves you will not even share your secrets to his/her maternal parents. Now what of friends? If he/she breaks your trust, don't be fooled that he/she will one day change. Trust is like a paper, once broken, it can't be returned to it's original state no matter the type of glue you use to mend it. Think wisely and make your own decisions.
9. DOES HE/SHE UNDERSTAND YOUR WEAKNESS AND ACCEPT THEM?
Someone who truly loves you will take his/her time to understand you in and out. Does he/she understand your weaknesses? Does he/she know how to deal with them? Well, if yes, you are truly loved, if no, try and do something about it.
10. DOES HE/SHE RESPECT THOSE THAT ARE IMPORTANT TO YOU?
To everyone on earth, family and friends form the basic pillars of life. Does he respect your family members and friends? A lady or a man who has the guts to raise his/her voice to his in-laws or partners friends in an arrogant way deserves a silent booting. Don’t even give him/her time to defend it; Make fewer announcements and more moves.
Watch out for part two....
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